Paragyayan wife – what is to be married with women from Paraguay
Gathering information about Paraguay is not easy as there is not much information on this country on the Internet or all the info is not up to date and is repeated and copied from one source to another. Thankfully, when it is going about Paraguayan women in marriage the overall picture is vivid.
In case you will have the idea to marry woman from Paraguay you have to know what to expect from her in the family. The best way to imagine this is to look how they live in families here in Paraguay and all what they used to do or what their mothers used to do at home they will copy and bring into their family life. No doubts, if Paraguayan girl will marry westerner, for example, American man, he would bring his corrections and ideas to their common life and she would probably live very different than if she had family back in Paraguay.
Role of wife in Paraguayan family is very hard and heavy. Life in Paraguay is patriarchal and the man (husband) is the head of the family and he rules the family. The man brings money to his family by hard work, usually in the field and woman has to serve all the family needs. Paraguayan wife has genetically inherited being housewife, I guess. The number of duties she does about the house is just numerous. She prepares food, cleans the house, and does washing, ironing and all other housework. She has to feed tired after work husband as well as children. It does not matter how big family is, is she sick, pregnant or just tired, all this obligations must be done, there are no other option. Besides work she has to do her duties in bed with her husband. Very often on the basis of poverty and hard life situation domestic violence occurs in Paraguay; husband beats his wife and she has no rights to tell anyone quietly suffering. Women in Paraguay live very hard life, but they do not understand this because they were rose up in such family where mother did the same and they think it is normal role of woman in the society.
Wife from Paraguay thinks she is happy living routine life, serving family and husband sacrificing her for the sake of the family. Those are qualities impossible to see in modern western emancipated society. On the one side it is very sad all those women from Paraguay never in their life would use other option like seeing the word and developing her personality. On the other hand, if woman is happy to live her life like she lives why has she to do something more and to search something different? She is happy to have many kids, maybe not that passionate and romantic, but caring husband who is working hard for the sake of her and his family. Are women in west happy with their lives? What we often see in the US? Woman lives without husband, trying to find her life goals among concrete jungles, in this anthill of people, and then she gets depression, visits psychologist and stuff like that and so on and so on. Tell me please, who is happier, this American woman with all the issues I have written above or Paraguayan woman in her village who is healthy, maybe not wealthy in terms of money, but wealthy with family, she is happy and has smile on her face… Where is the secret? The secret is that Paraguayan woman has found her sense of life which is in her kids and family and American woman has not found it yet and is still in search, and day by day she is suffering. I am not telling it is perfect here in Paraguay and so bad in America. I have just expressed my point of view which is different from usual views of westerners.
Even if Paraguayan wife could be a little more enthusiastic she does not have time even to think about this. She has so many duties to complete during the day all your ideas about high matter, role of woman in the society and women rights seem to her as far as distant galaxy, because when you need to feed children, prepare them to school, meet and feed the husband and do the house work there is no time for self-education and self-knowledge. Yes, poverty is making adjustments, no matter what we think about this and how sad it is. To survive in Paraguay you have to do many simple, but necessary things and quantity of these obligations is just enormous.
What if you marry Paraguayan woman and bring her to your home country? That would be great idea and you could save her from domestic slavery. Of course, having all those housewife skills inherited with gene pool she will be great caring mother, great wife, but you will help her by the house, doing part of work; you may prepare food together, clean the house together – she will be really pleased and surprised by such help as it is weird for her; men in Paraguay never do that. You will show your wife what real care is; you will have time to rest and to spend it together, at home or visiting different places; that woman from Paraguay when being your wife probably would feel her like in paradise. Your attitude and care is very important, but don’t forbid her to do the work she’s got used to do. She needs to do what she used to do back home as she simply didn’t get used to live in a family behaving another way. Don’t pledge your Paraguayan wife to change the style of life abruptly as it may lead to dramatic changes like cultural shock, depression and permanent feeling back home was better. Don’t make her living in your country emotionally hard as she knows how to deal with physical loads, but not with cultural and emotional ones. If you keep to the certain rules and our remember tips your wife from Paraguay would be the best what happened with you in your entire life.